Have yall ever read the book or heard of the 5 Love Languages? I was introduced to it my a wonderful friend over two years ago and it has completely changed my outlook on love. How many times have you thought to yourself Why doesn’t my husband/boyfriend show me that he loves me? or I don’t know if my mom knows how much I love her!
Reading through this books makes you see that people express love and recognize love differently and that if you & your partner or you & whoever don’t have the same ‘love language’ that is where the disconnect happens! Take the quiz on the 5 Love Language website or check out the book!
My love language is Receiving Gifts, and I get embarrassed when I tell people that because if people haven’t read the book then they automatically think oh what a gold digger how superficial is this girl! And I’m not! (okay I do like nice things, I mean who doesn’t) But what that means is that to me it’s not the material value of the gift, it’s the fact that when someone gives me a gift I recognize the amount of time it took for that person to either search for the perfect gift and send it or the fact that when they spotted whatever-it-is they were thinking of me! All of that is behind the gift!
Things that I consider gifts (that other people might not): letters, a pretty leaf, bringing home dinner, gum, a picture!
The disconnect happens when the person who is trying to show me love doesn’t speak my love language or when I’m trying to show my loved one love but their primary love language isn’t the one I’m speaking!
Understanding how you ‘speak’ love and how your family ‘speaks’ love makes the ‘conversations’ so much easier!
that picture is both of us speaking each other’s love languages: his gift to me is dancing with me and since his love language is physical touch I made sure it was a slow dance